tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post1143965911188848852..comments2024-01-01T07:01:27.625-08:00Comments on Foodtrainers: What's worse putting an obese child on a diet or doing nothing?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-70855751837467261322012-05-05T02:18:44.971-07:002012-05-05T02:18:44.971-07:00Nice article.
Dietary Supplement Ru-21Nice article.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.herbscity.com/ru-21-5484.html" rel="nofollow">Dietary Supplement Ru-21</a>Herrypontinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02951858056059464015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-72220779864556510892012-03-30T08:05:59.149-07:002012-03-30T08:05:59.149-07:00I have yet to meet a parent who thinks they are do...I have yet to meet a parent who thinks they are doing/have done things perfectly, but this woman may come to deeply regret publicizing her daughter's journey. I wish the family the best of luck.Caronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05799102663192977025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-5120853371205374612012-03-29T22:20:00.290-07:002012-03-29T22:20:00.290-07:00I haven't read the article yet but I will soon...I haven't read the article yet but I will soon. I don't know about putting kids on diets. I think the focus should be on changing the quality of their diets, not the quantity. Wholesome nutritious food and plenty of exercise sure beats any diet. It can become a slippery slope and so I definitely want to try as much as I can to instill good eating habits in my little one as early as possible.Sam @ Mom at the Barrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01704352221970570240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-43651705865136297972012-03-29T07:57:01.117-07:002012-03-29T07:57:01.117-07:00I haven't read the article, but from your acco...I haven't read the article, but from your account it seems that the mother did many things right. Working with children who are overweight, my BIGGEST pet peeve is when the other child can still eat unhealthy cause they are "skinny." It is definitely frustrating that some parents don't view health from the inside out.<br />I do like that her brother ate the same as she did.Kristen (swanky dietitian)http://swankydietitian.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-29039493937121013232012-03-29T04:39:00.698-07:002012-03-29T04:39:00.698-07:00Do you think most mothers can "resolve" ...Do you think most mothers can "resolve" their childhood issues to an extent them don't surface anymore? What should we do about celebrations at school?Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17713676282787688389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-72419387706074626612012-03-29T04:38:10.913-07:002012-03-29T04:38:10.913-07:00The little girl was 93 pounds and just over 4 feet...The little girl was 93 pounds and just over 4 feet getting clothing altered so it would fit, I would say intervention necessary but I hear you.Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17713676282787688389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-37814828103924499212012-03-28T22:58:21.293-07:002012-03-28T22:58:21.293-07:00Really great commentary on this issue Lauren, and ...Really great commentary on this issue Lauren, and I agree it is a complicated one. I do agree that teaching and modeling healthy eating is absolutely important for this age group, but dieting is not. It sounds to me that this mother has a lot of unresolved issues with her own childhood and weight issues, that even though she may have her child's best interests at hand, if she does not resolve her own issues first, she may do more harm in the long run than good. I am all for a good homemade cupcake every now and then, but agree that the food celebrations at school have gotten way out of hand!EA-The Spicy RDhttp://www.eastewart.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-89401896980348784422012-03-28T18:34:08.198-07:002012-03-28T18:34:08.198-07:00Oh, and have a great trip, Lauren.Oh, and have a great trip, Lauren.Dr. Ayalahttp://herbalwater.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-7241967329349826072012-03-28T17:42:42.349-07:002012-03-28T17:42:42.349-07:00Well I am reading EATING ANIMALS by Jonathan Safra...Well I am reading EATING ANIMALS by Jonathan Safran Foer now, can't wait to let you know where I end up with that one.Carrienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-9816093428866350882012-03-28T17:34:15.095-07:002012-03-28T17:34:15.095-07:00I am extremely uncomfortable with the public natur...I am extremely uncomfortable with the public nature of the whole article. There will be emotional repercussions for this little girl...and once something is published, it never goes away. I absolutely think that parents should address obesity in children, but it should be done privately, respectfully and from a place of love, not publicly (both in terms of telling her what to eat AND in terms of publishing the whole thing for the world to see) and without shame or humiliation.<br /><br />Do I think that it would be better to do nothing or to do what this woman is doing? Honestly, I can't choose between the two.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00420841652300294215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-34621304543096877762012-03-28T17:24:39.238-07:002012-03-28T17:24:39.238-07:00Exactly.
More about the movie here: http://www.hu...Exactly. <br />More about the movie here: http://www.hungryforchange.tv/ You can watch it online for free until the end of the month.<br />Forget about it, enjoy your vacation! :)NatalieInCAhttp://twitter.com/#!/NatalieInCAnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-52111180993198358342012-03-28T16:46:41.750-07:002012-03-28T16:46:41.750-07:00Ayala, I didn't address this but you are right...Ayala, I didn't address this but you are right. Why couldn't this have been done anonymously? And even my 10 year old said "why do they have to be dressed like fashion models?" He has no idea what Vogue is or where article came from. Great point and important consideration.Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17713676282787688389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-13798235097586477002012-03-28T16:31:46.222-07:002012-03-28T16:31:46.222-07:00Putting an obese kid on a diet is one thing -- and...Putting an obese kid on a diet is one thing -- and I agree with your analysis of it, Lauren. Telling the story, with your name and your kids' name, is quite another issue. <br /><br />The diet may be for the kids' benefit. The publicity is self serving for mom. <br /><br />I don't think parents own their kids intimate stories and have the right to share those.Dr. Ayalahttp://herbalwater.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-24733647087900443612012-03-28T15:38:52.388-07:002012-03-28T15:38:52.388-07:00Jenna, thank you for this feedback. I am entirely ...Jenna, thank you for this feedback. I am entirely anti humiliation (public or private) and think/hope we can do something without doing damage. I love what Natalie said (above) can we not teach children about food and choices without shame? Can we love our bodies, our minds and food and at the same time work on our weight? My main point here was that doing something isn't bad, addressing a weight issue isn't bad but I in no way mean "no matter what the cost" I just feel there's a cost in not addressing. Does that make sense?Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17713676282787688389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-21780279440026350902012-03-28T15:24:53.836-07:002012-03-28T15:24:53.836-07:00As someone who was moderately overweight as a chil...As someone who was moderately overweight as a child (pretty tall, pretty round) there was nothing more crushing than one time when my dad told me to "watch what you are taking in, dear" at a birthday party. I know he meant it in a nice way, sort of as a friendly reminder to slow down, but I had never been more humiliated or embarrassed. That was over 20 years ago, and I still get a sharp pain when I think about it. I can't imagine that this girl went through that on a regular basis! These kind of watching-over-you-shoulder and humiliation tactics, which this mother employed, are bound to set up an unhealthy relationship with food (not to mention the parent or guardian enforcing them).<br /><br />I think writing this mother off as "just not perfect" is doing her a favour, when children are still SO much more likely to have an eating disorder than they are to develop Type II diabetes. Can't we teach children to be healthy without making them feel humiliated or ashamed of their bodies? How many adults do you know who hate their bodies and are disgusted when they look in the mirror? Do we want to assign children to this destiny?<br /><br />I think the "fix obesity no matter what the cost" attitude is very damaging to our relationship with food, eating, and body image as a society. If you don't love yourself and think that you are a valuable human being who has the ability to function, no matter what you look like, than why would you even want to lose weight in the first place? The headless, soulless pictures of obese people completely dehumanizes them, as does the media, so why should they care if we are not going to listen to them until they lose a few pounds? What's the point if we don't treat children with equal love and kindness? Can you imagine if a parent treated a normal-weight child with this level of disrespect and disregard for their feelings? Why is it excusable if it is "for the greater good"?<br /><br />I appreciate what you did in analyzing this as a way to get the conversation flowing, and I really, really hope a lot of good, long chats come out of this. But I think that there is no way to justify what this mother does as "good" or respectful. There is "doing nothing", "doing something", and then "doing damage". This women did the latter.Jennanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-509263377470706452012-03-28T13:39:23.050-07:002012-03-28T13:39:23.050-07:00As do I Tanya, that's why we can't rip thi...As do I Tanya, that's why we can't rip this mother apart for methods that aren't perfect.Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17713676282787688389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-895513829121003172012-03-28T13:36:50.788-07:002012-03-28T13:36:50.788-07:00I don't have children, so no personal stories ...I don't have children, so no personal stories to share, but I whole-heartedly feel it is worse to do nothing about an obese child.Tanya @ Dine, Dash, and Deadlifthttp://www.dinedashdeadlift.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-82244682972315547142012-03-28T13:11:49.628-07:002012-03-28T13:11:49.628-07:00I think the mom has a book deal so chances are we&...I think the mom has a book deal so chances are we'll all be hearing more. Perhaps with the exposure the mother with gain information about how to relay this information and hopeful Bea will have someone more than an MD working on all of this with her. Any other articles I need to read?Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17713676282787688389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-59417715612126478872012-03-28T13:10:16.905-07:002012-03-28T13:10:16.905-07:00I don't know hungry for change, what is it abo...I don't know hungry for change, what is it about. What a success story with your daughter. It sounds as if you empowered her to make good decisions and positive changes. And yes, it's about food and really our world to learn about all the food decisions we all make. We are away and on a boat saw coke (gross) made with sugar. We had a conversation about why the US makes it with HFCS and Mexico and Central America use real sugar. The more kids and everyone know about food the better.Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17713676282787688389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-25800072322599475282012-03-28T13:07:07.531-07:002012-03-28T13:07:07.531-07:00Agree Ameena, it's hard for children and famil...Agree Ameena, it's hard for children and families who have to confront weight head on as it is for families who have to live in fear of allergens or any other health issue. The school celebrations are insane and at least notify parents that kids had cookies at a book fair, cupcakes at a birthday etc. It's overkill.Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17713676282787688389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-36671653226182547312012-03-28T13:04:40.220-07:002012-03-28T13:04:40.220-07:00Well done Jen. I really think this should be taugh...Well done Jen. I really think this should be taught in schools. Where does our food come from. What is in it? How does our body use it? I love that my children are old enough to understand food and I don't have to police as much. And yes, they love ice cream and chocolate and I know I'd have to curtail these items more if weight was an issue.Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17713676282787688389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-35866193710705509902012-03-28T13:02:41.016-07:002012-03-28T13:02:41.016-07:00Agree and disagree. I think with an obese child yo...Agree and disagree. I think with an obese child you have to bring attention to it. It can't be just about eating healthy. My husband has brothers and one of them always had inclination (from birth!) to eat more. So in a way you can't parent the same way as a child who self regulates (as most children do). I agree that the tone can't be critical. As for whether this paves the way for an eating disorder it's a double edged sword. Thirty percent of children in this country are overweight, more than half of those obese. We can't afford to life in fear of eating disorders and not act on this issue. However, nobody needs to feel bad in an effort to feel good. Complicated.Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17713676282787688389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-64538675752878805452012-03-28T12:56:27.486-07:002012-03-28T12:56:27.486-07:00Beautifully put Michele. This was one article but ...Beautifully put Michele. This was one article but what came across to me was that the mother initially did nothing, didn't know what to do (normal). And then I think admittedly the mother's history and desire to help may not have been communicated perfectly. If this were a client of mine my questions would be does the child have a desire to make changes with her eating, does she understand why she is embarking on these changes, does she understand that sometime what we want and what our body needs are different. And most importantly support because it isn't alway fun to say no to things. It cannot be about thinness at this age.Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17713676282787688389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-4450123521771467092012-03-28T10:19:31.029-07:002012-03-28T10:19:31.029-07:00Lauren, I agree with everything you said and I did...Lauren, I agree with everything you said and I did think you would come at it from these angles. I so wish she would have been more compassionate and kind to her child, too! The article ends in the most depressing way--would love to see a follow up when the daughter is 16. Thanks for posting!!!Carrienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739675715154690483.post-78556867155990001052012-03-28T09:16:47.501-07:002012-03-28T09:16:47.501-07:00Great article Lauren!
I can relate to the mom and ...Great article Lauren!<br />I can relate to the mom and I feel sorry for her that she has to justify her child's diet. My daughter did not inherit my fast metabolism so we taught her early on (5-6 yo) to watch what she was eating. She is 9 now and knows more about nutrition than most adults. The great thing is that I don't have to do anything now, she is fully independent. She is not super skinny, like her brother, but she is not overweight either. I find it crucial to discuss nutrition with our children, not just weight. Everybody, even kids, should have the right to know (pesticides, GMO, hormones, antibiotics...) and decide for themselves. BTW, we watched the online premiere of the Hungry For Change movie and the kids loved it. They felt like they already knew a lot of things and reinforce their food choices. It is very well done.NatalieInCAhttp://twitter.com/#!/NatalieInCAnoreply@blogger.com