I’m a clipper. Even though everything is available online
when I read an article I like, I rip it out of the newspaper or magazine(when
it is my newspaper or magazine, I mean I have manners). This weekend, for some
reason I was fascinated learning Tupperware parties are huge in Indonesia. Of
course I left thinking that I hope the Indonesian women do not microwave in
plastic, do they know about BPAs? How can I tell them? Then, I moved to the
Style section. I’m always a sucker for
the Modern Love column but this one about a mother and daughter and poems in her shoe? I saved that. But there’s always one article each weekend that is my
#1.
I am still thinking about “Medicating Women’s Feelings”. While the author, Julie
Holland, discusses that mood meds are overprescribed, particularly to women,
she also explained that part of what makes women women is our moods. “But we
are under constant pressure to restrain our emotional lives. We have been
taught to apologize for our tears, to suppress our anger and to fear being
called hysterical.”
In both my personal and professional life I am a confessed
fixer. Fixing sounds like a good thing. If my children have an issue with
school or friends, I like to problem solve. And as they are getting older I
like helping them problem solve. At work, if a client has a time of day their
eating goes off the rails, we’ll strategize. Some of this is good and helpful
but perhaps it’s different when it comes to mood and meds?
As Holland says “we need to stop labeling our sadness and anxiety
as uncomfortable symptoms and to appreciate them as a healthy, adaptive part of
biology.” Many positive tonics suggested
in the article are what we endorse in our office namely sleep, sunshine and
nutrients. But even if we aren’t prescribing meds I worry that sometimes
important change comes from sitting with feelings that aren’t the best. After
all, how do we notice when we feel especially bouncy or confident if we don’t
give those other feelings a little airtime? Some things can fix themselves?
Julie Holland has a book with a fantastic title Moody
Bitches: The Truth About the Drugs You’re Taking, The Sleep You’re Misssing,
The Sex You’re Not Having and What’s Really Making You Crazy. And I am not
anti med at all…hope you got that. I may be suggesting Valerian instead of
Ambien but if we’re being really natural perhaps there should be a little more
waiting and seeing…and feeling.
Do you think we
over-fix negative emotions? How are you feeling today? Anything you read this
weekend that stayed with you?
I am a fixer too Lauren...if I can't fix a problem I get antsy. Sometimes I think I should sit back and absorb instead of spring into action.
ReplyDeleteHolland makes great points...we should be okay with sadness and anxiety at times.