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| Sure you want to eat that? |
What are you uncomfortable discussing? Sex? Money matters? I
would normally add politics to this list but most of us have extinguished that
fear this election season. Today I’m shooting a news segment on couples and
food. The producer joked to me “it’s easier to get heroin users to talk to us.”
I sent a few emails to clients and friends. We have two women and one man on
board to open up about food differences in their relationships. However, the
majority of the responses I received went something like “this is a huge issue
for us but I’m not sure we want to air our dirty laundry.” Really? We weren’t
asking people to strip naked. Rather “he’s a health nut and I’m not” that sort
of thing.
When a client enters into a new relationship I always ask, “what
kind of an eater are they?” While this may seem unimportant initially, while
everyone is on good behavior, you eat three times a day, it will matter. If you
love to stay home and cook and he wants to go out every night OR he is gluten
free and you are “gluten full” you need a game plan.
No need to completely
convert
“We need to work on his eating” a client told me last week
referring to her boyfriend.
“No we don’t” I said. Let’s work on your eating. As long as
your partner isn’t AGAINST your eating regime, you’re ok. We don’t expect our
significant other so think the same way we do and so they don’t need to eat the
same exact way either.
My husband loves golf, I promise you he spends more hours
golfing than eating. I tried it and I don’t love golf (understatement alert). He
doesn’t expect me to golf, we’re good.
Metabolism Matters
When it comes to eating, metabolism, gender and age affect
how much you should or can eat.
A tiny woman shouldn’t match a big guy or you’ll have
relationship weight gain.
Homemade Helps
Cooking at home allows you to share the experience of meal
prep and menu selection. If one person likes fries or steak, you can make baked
fries or sweet potato fries and grass-fed steak. Or, you can add a veg for the
healthier eater. There’s usually that Venn diagram overlap or some common ground.
No Food Advice While Eating
This is the same advice I give to parents of teens.
“Are you sure you want to eat that?” is never going to be met
with “oh you’re right, I don’t’ want to eat that.” If you’re going to say you’re
worried about their health, I am sure but don’t worry about it at the table.
There is nothing sexy about policing your mate.
Finally, as I said in my blog last week, let’s not be so shy
about this. Whether you’re in a new relationship or a longstanding one you can
discuss food and eating. Just don’t contact Foodtrainers for “couples
Foodtraining” we don’t offer that service for a reason.
We're not on camera, tell me about your relationship food issues. Do you and your partner eat similarly? Was that always the case? If you do not, what do you do to compromise?
And finally, happy halloween...if you missed it here is a link to our "healthy sweets you can eat newsletter".
And finally, happy halloween...if you missed it here is a link to our "healthy sweets you can eat newsletter".
